a head REST
a foot REST
a trunk REST
an arm REST
a back REST
or a leg REST
My goal is to remove as many of the “RESTS” as possible to maximize their independence.
Some of these children have learned to depend on these RESTS.
If it is there, they will use them! They have learned to depend on those RESTS, thus “Learned Dependency”. When assistance is constantly provided, the result is a learned dependency on others to perform the task so they can be said to have developed learned helplessness. If I challenge them by taking away their head rest, they will struggle and fatigue several times at first. Then something wonderful happens with time and practice.
They gain control.
The same is true with people who are dependent on the government. (Excluding those with severe disabilities).
A person may have lost their job, lost their spouse, lost their back health, lost their child, lost their ability to work or earn an income. They may need a REST. They may need to be dependent on the government for a while to help them get back on their feet. They may need assistance from an external source to help get them over this tough time.
The problem arises when a fairly healthy person does not want to exercise independence apart from the government. They choose to REST too long on the trunk and foot rests of the government. The longer they rest, the weaker they get.
Why should someone work if the government will pay them to stay at home? Why should someone go to work at Arby’s for 10.00 per hour when the government will pay them more to stay at home?
Two words…..Work Ethic.
Is a person born to work hard or is it taught in the home? Nature or nurture? I would argue that it is a bit of both.
My sister is a type A personality very focused, driven and a hard worker. Me, well I am a type B personality, laid back, creative and reflective. We are both hard workers. Our parents taught us the importance of not relying on anyone to do stuff for us, that we need to work hard for what we wanted. No one was going to give us what we wanted on a platter, unless we worked for it.
If you needed brain surgery, where would you go to have it done? A teeny-weeny hospital out in the middle of no-where, where there is little competition or to a place like Mayo Clinic or Cleveland Clinic where you must be the best in your field? That is where I want to go. Competition is good! It makes us better people. Competition makes us get out of our figurative wheelchairs and try our best.
If you know someone who is RESTING on the foot rest of the government, encourage them, cheer them on let them know that they can make a difference in not only their lives, but others as well. Those RESTS should be temporary. Get up! Try! Make something happen for someone else! Get off the governmental wheelchair and work and enjoy life. Make a difference! What you do matters. The wheelchair is there for those debilitating times in your life. Don’t stay there.